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The 'Freezing' Response to Traumatic threat:

Many survivors of sexual abuse go into a 'freeze state' whilst the abuse is going on as a way of surviving. As we look back on what happened, it is easy to feel a lot of guilt or shame for freezing and not doing more to protect ourselves by fighting back or running away.

Understanding that freezing is out of your control, is often a great help to people.


"Hope is faith holding out it's hand in the dark."

George Iles

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  This explains what happens:  

The autonomic nervous system controls involuntary (visceral) functions and has three divisions. The sympathetic and parasympathetic divisions consist of two-neuron chains that connect the central nervous system with the smooth muscles and glands of the viscera, blood vessels, and skin.


The enteric division is a largely independent system that lies in the walls of the gastrointestinal tract and controls many digestive functions.

The sympathetic system organizes the involuntary responses that anticipate maximal exertion (in the extreme, the so-called "fight-or-flight" reaction).

Conversely, the parasympathetic system organizes the involuntary responses that generally reflect visceral function in a state of relaxation.




Freeze Response


Fight/Flight Response


When the fight or flight systems cannot be activated, escape is impossible physically or relationally, fighting is not an option for all sorts of reasons, or the traumatic threat is prolonged, the limbic system can simultaneously activate the parasympathetic branch of the autonomic nervous system, causing a state of freezing called 'tonic immobility'- like a mouse going dead when caught by a cat, or like a deer caught in headlights.

Arousal is mediated by the limbic system, which is located in the centre of the brain. This part of the brain regulates survival behaviours and emotional expression. It also influences memory processing. The limbic system has an intimate relationship with the autonomic nervous system (ANS). It evaluates a situation, signalling the ANS either to have the body rest or to prepare it for effort. (The ANS has 2 branches: the sympathetic branch which is primarily aroused in states of effort and stress, and the parasympathetic branch which is primarily aroused in states of rest and relaxation).

The nervous system responses of fight, flight and freeze are automatic survival actions. They are similar to reflexes in that they are instantaneous, but the mechanisms underlying these responses are much more complex. If the limbic system perceives that there is neither time nor strength for fight or flight, and death could be imminent, then the body will freeze.

In this state the victim of trauma enters an altered reality. Time slows down and there is no fear or pain. In this state, if harm or death do occur, the pain is not felt as intensely. People who have fallen from great heights or been mauled by animals and survived, report just such a reaction. This freeze response can increase chances of survival if the attacker (animal or human) thinks the person is dead.

It is important for a survivor of sexual trauma to understand that these limbic system/ANS responses are instantaneous, instinctive responses to perceived threat. They are not chosen responses.

Many survivors feel much guilt and shame for freezing and not doing more to protect themselves by fighting back or running away. Understanding that freezing is out of their control, is often a great help to people.

Freezing was the best way your body knew to protect you from the trauma of what was not your fault. You did well to survive. Now it is time to heal.

This cartoon explains with insight and simplicity what happens inside your brain as a result of sexual abuse:-

The image below is from "The Courage To Be Me" by Dr Nina Burrowes. ( Nina Burrowes 2013. Image used with the author's permission)

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Peter A. Levine with Ann Frederick

Waking the Tiger - healing Trauma

Sometimes the "freeze" response can become a well worn coping mechanism that survivors fall back into whenever they feel stressed or anxious. It can undermine your capacity to engage in life in an ongoing way and express your full potential. It can make you feel numb and distant. Peter A. Levine with Ann Frederick wrote a great book about healing from this that it might help you to read.

We can also help you with this in counselling if you would like to talk it through with us:-





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